Heart of Dating

Heartbeat

The relational diagnostic built to tell you the truth
Relational Assessment

An honest look at yourself and your relationship.

Most relationship tools are designed to affirm you. This one is designed to inform you. Heartbeat gives you three scores — your individual health, your partner's individual health, and your combined relational health — grounded in clinical research, not optimism.

If you want a tool that tells you you're doing great, this is not it. If you want to understand where you actually are — and what it will take to build the relationship you want — begin here.

10–12
Minutes
Private
By Default
3
Scores

Private. For your results only — we do not share or sell your information.

< 1 yr5 yrs10 yrs20 yrs30+ yrs

Grounded in Hargrave's Restoration Therapy, Bowen Family Systems, and the Gottman Institute. Individual scores are private unless you choose to share them.

Part I — Individual Health

About you, honestly.

Answer about yourself — not your relationship. This section is private unless you choose otherwise.

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Part I Complete

Individual section finished.

You have completed the individual assessment. The score below reflects your personal health baseline — your capacity to regulate, grow, and bring your best self to a close relationship.

Your Individual Health Score
out of 100

Part II assesses the health of the relationship itself — patterns of communication, trust, intimacy, and alignment. Answer as honestly as you did here.

Part II — Relational Health

About your relationship.

Answer from your own perspective. There are no correct answers — only honest ones.

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Before You Continue

A note before you see your results.

What follows is an honest assessment, not an evaluation of your worth. Please read the following before proceeding.

I

Scores reflect patterns, not character.A lower score does not mean you are broken. It identifies specific patterns — many rooted in your history — that are currently limiting your relational potential. Patterns change with awareness and intention.

II

This tool is not a weapon.If you share these results with your partner, the purpose is mutual growth. Using a score to shame, blame, or position yourself as the healthier party defeats the entire purpose and causes harm.

III

Individual scores are yours.When you invite your partner, only the relational section results and gap analysis are shared by default. You control whether your individual score is visible.

IV

Both people are responsible.No single person carries the health of a relationship. Growth requires both individuals to show up differently. The goal of this assessment is to make that conversation more honest and more productive.

Complete the picture.

Your partner taking this assessment changes everything. When both scores are in, you will see exactly where you align, where you differ, and what to address — by name, not by feeling.

They will take the same assessment independently. Once complete, both of you will see the combined relational picture.